Girl I love has boyfriend, please help

[Lolo1220]

Okay, here I go. So, the girl I have loved for the past five years is finally going off to College. A nice, expensive college I will not name. She has a boyfriend, who I have met, and would really like except for the fact that he is dating the girl of my dreams (literally and metaphorically). This girl I like means the world to me, and I can think of nothing else. She knows I love her, because my best friend has been recently 'talking to her' about me, which means he's actually just been telling her all the things I've told him about her (is that confusing?). And I have told my best friend uncountable times how much I love this girl. I come from a small school (I'm graduating next week) and this girl is not only the most attractive girl in the school, but she is also the smartest and the most goal oriented, which is something I love about her. She's the kind of girl who not only COULD do anything if she set her mind to it, but WOULD do anything she set her mind to. I have grown to care SO much for this girl over the past five years that I hardly find other girls to be attractive, and only those who have characteristics vaguely similar to her. I asked this girl to Prom this year, at the suggestion of my best friend, and surprisingly, she went with me. And I have never been happier than the night I spent with her. It made me so happy just to touch her when dancing with her. While i was driving her from a group dinner to the Prom, she asked me :"I have a question. Why didny you tell me you liked me?" To which i replied "I dont know. I guess...I was just really shy." Right there I wasn't even thinking clearly, just stunned to be driving the girl I love so much to a dance, and I may have unwittingly screwed myself. She said, "Thats a good answer." But that's already passed, and I still ache to be with her.
text her occasionally, and she sometimes does and does not reply. The message she left in my Yearbook, in essence, was
that Im a really 'genuine guy', and she was sorry things didn't work out the way I'd hoped, but I'd eventually realize she
wasn't what I was looking for. She signed off with "Bye (my name), (her name)". What hurts most is the possible implication that I'll
never see her again,though she told me a while ago that after graduation, we will keep in touch. I told her my concerns through a text message, but received no reply. At this point, I don't know how to think for myself about any of this, and it's even more confusing because she really ISNT like other girls. She played football with the Varsity team, whose record was 9-4. She's everything I AM looking for, and no other girl can really compare, in my eyes. I've never felt so lost and confused, and I don't have any idea what to do or...anything. It may be very complicated and hopeless, but I really would appreciate any advice. I just know that whatever I do, I won't forget her or stop loving her. Every time over the summer I've tried to get over her, but every year I come back to school and see her, I just get the same feelings I always had. And this time, I know that it won't be so easy to just try to forget her. That's impossible now. I can live with the hope that I may someday be with her if I stay in touch with her. I can't live with breaking off a friendship with the most important person to me. Again, I'd really appreciate some advice. And some light in my life.

[luvsick]

Here is the only part you should remember and pay attention to: "she has a boyfriend". Nothing else matters.

[solodolo]

well i dont have any advice for mostly cause i going through almost the same stuff except for me just as i got over my 1st crush, the same thing happened to the next girl i fell really hard for its a bad feeling but ur not alone

[Bdoon]

Brother

She has a boyfriend but the only thing that is constant is change. Not trying to give you false hope but you need to get some exposure. Hell you are in a great position. You can take other women out and not really worry about whether they will like you or not...which tends to make them curious about you or think you are confident...even if you aren't. just keep a presence on the Facebook type things (I'm too old for that stuff). I had a similar experience when I was a teen....and again with the first woman I lived with. I thank God every time I think about those women that I didn't get married to either one. One ended up a lesbian and the other had her husband blow his brains out in front of her because she was leaving him (he mistook sex for love I think because of all the woman I have been with she was the best). Your life is just starting and all feelings, in fact everything passes. Act as if...pretend until it becomes real. Get out there and meet other women. try church...gyms...clubs(not night clubs)...take dance lessons...get a job at a club as a bartender (but don't drink)...go to college. Love yourself and show it. It will get better with each passing day but faster if you take some actions. You will look back on this some day and laugh. Keep yourself in the NOW...forget the past ...it only exists in your mind. Don't think too much about the future...it doesn't exist and most folks just project their past into the future they think about. You will be okay...there are no "right woman or right man"...that is romantic bs. Try online dating...pump some iron and put a good snap on the dating site but be respectful. Only sick women take abuse from a guy no matter what he is.....so be respectful....but not too much! Be yourself but amplify it and at the same time show some humility by being a good listener.