He cheated, I forgave, I cheated, will he forgive?

[somanyproblems]

While I was on holiday my boyfriend slept with his ex who he had previously dated for 2yrs, it was at a party and they both claim to be very drunk. I know this isn’t a good enough excuse and he said that he didn’t expect me to stay with him. I was furious and hurt but could see how regretful he was and decided to give him another chance.
Then I went on holiday again, still mad but wanting the time apart to clear my head, and met this hotel entertainer. I slept with him. You’re probably getting the wrong impression of me but I have never done something like this ever before and never thought I would. I’m not sure if anger at my boyfriend back home provoked it or what but I don't actually feel as guilty as I expected :/
Now that I’m home I have to tell him, I just have to. He told me when he cheated (although he did wait 2 weeks to tell me and I cant be certain that he would have told me unless he thought it was going to back to me- his ex had told people for her own intentions) so I have to tell him.
What should I do- Break up with him? or tell him about what happened and hope he can forgive me?
Considering that I managed to forgive him, would you be able to forgive me?

[polgara]

Personally, if you are sure that there is no way he can find out you cheated I wouldn't tell him. The only good telling him will do is hurt him and undermine his confidence in you.

Also you need to think why you want to tell him - is it to ease your guilt? to hurt him because he hurt you? or to be honest?

If you want to keep this relationship I honestly think that you should keep this a secret and forgive yourself.

[hope2010]

I agree.

While I normally would believe open and honest about everything, I agree with the previous poster. What (productive) can be gained by disclosing this information? What would be your goal/motivation for doing so? If this was something that was typical of your behavior, you could forsee you doing it again, or he could potentially find out about it- then yes I would say a discussion was in order. In this instance, I say leave it alone and re-examine your possible reasons for cheating. Was it out of hurt at what your boyfriend did to you, revenge, etc?