Commitment of a crush

[jenny1234]

I met this guy at work who for I helped at the very beginning to deal with his mums death-i only met him. He then went on to ignore me in front of people for over 7 months but would sometimes say hello if i was alone. i ALSO know that if i was not their in would look at my desk to see if I was in etc...I never thought much of it...until my last day...when I was leaving i confronted him and we ended up talking abt him and i asked him whether he was happy which he said yes. When I left he said that in hindsight he would have done thinsg differently and asked whether this was it (i.e. last time) he would see me. When i TOOK out my hand to shake his...he grabbed me and held me...and kissed me slowly on my cheeks and then held his hands in my face and kissed my forehead and walked off. Did he like me...since i know he has a reputation for being a bit of a flirt/player and I'm concerned that i he was just playing with my mind at the end...i mean was in genuine...I then heard rumours that he had a gf and always cheats on her...and im soo confused since he did not say anything and i THINK if he just wanted sex why didn't he just talk to me and play the game or something rather than ignoring me...

[Dezzie]

Perhaps he was confused by his own feelings. Players are generally people who have deep-seated insecurities and need to feel attractive to the opposite sex because they lack something. It sounds to me like he developed genuine respect for you and felt that he wasn't good enough for you. He was probably right and you should move on from this and find someone more worthy of your affections. It's obvious you have a lot of love and compassion and you deserve more.